I can only address point number 1...
Under Tools>Options>Document Properties>Annotations
There is an option to set Face/Surface to Arrow.
That's what I did to match our CAD standards and it seems to work for BOMs and should work for Cut lists...
I'm not understanding your other issues... I don't use weldments too often, though.
Thanks, now I don't have to change them all manually. Good to know until I find an answer. If I find an answer.